BY TINA FEY
Thoughtful gestures, such as remembering preferences, following up on events, or fulfilling desires, indicate a person's attentiveness and consideration in relationships and friendships, as highlighted by Psych Central's research.
A truly thoughtful person not only remembers things about you but also takes the extra step of writing them down, ensuring they never forget, as exemplified by an ex-boyfriend who kept lists of your preferences to bring you joy when you needed it most.
Thoughtful individuals demonstrate their care both in basic gestures and significant actions, such as helping you prepare for a job interview, ensuring your well-being, and finding subtle ways to ease your stress during challenging times.
Questioning your words or actions can indicate thoughtfulness, such as a partner noticing changes and asking about your well-being, while negative questioning contradicts thoughtful behavior.
Thoughtful individuals consider the impact of their actions on others, both in the present and future, weighing decisions that may affect shared responsibilities like childcare or evening plans, and are willing to make sacrifices for the benefit of others, including you.
A thoughtful person avoids assuming you'll cover their expenses and instead offers to pay more for their portion of the bill, giving you the choice to split evenly or accept their offer.
Money is crucial in relationships, and a thoughtful person recognizes their debts and repays them promptly without needing reminders.
Keeping score of favors and expecting something in return is unhealthy in relationships, but it is appreciated when people remember and reciprocate gestures of kindness, like making breakfast in return or offering to drive after being chauffeured.
A clear sign of thoughtfulness is when someone notices and appreciates the things you've done for them, expressing gratitude with a simple thank you, which has a significant positive impact on relationship quality and longevity, as supported by Study Finds.